What Do You Do When The World Knocks You Down?

Yesterday was one of those days that started out where I felt I could take on the world!!!... And then I got tons of rejection and had major fails (especially with technology!).

No big deal. Meditate, shake it off, and start with a clean slate again the next day...

Yeah right... 

I woke up this morning fresh, wide eyed and bushy tailed, only to have another day filled with MORE rejection and failures, so I had a moment when I started to question why I was doing all this healthy living stuff for, and why I was putting myself out there as hard as I could!  I did the only thing I could think of doing...

Call In My SHEroes :) :) :) 

Yep! Asked my wonderful inspirational voices of wisdom, Chivon John, Karlyn Percil, and Bee Quammie! If you don't know who these ladies are, you gotta check them out. Collectively, we are all committed to helping people be their best selves while keeping things real!

These ladies are my reminder that we can only succeed when we work together, when we learn to be strong, and also when we make sure we get back up when we get knocked down! I'm so blessed that when I have these moments, my SHEroes give me love so I really can get back up renewed, strengthened and ready to take on the world all over again!

Do you have SHEroes and HEroes to reach out to? If not, what is the one step you can take today to find those who can be your support, and who you can support in return?

I'm Upsetting Who?

I've had so many conversations recently with people who are worried or spending time thinking about others they have upset or made uncomfortable.

Here's some truth for you:

If people DO NOT have the courage to approach you about what you've done, FORGET ABOUT IT!!!

If YOU live your life by making it clear that people can be honest with you - you create the space where they can bring you anything! Therefore, if someone can't deal with healthy conflict - delete delete delete!

Keep in mind that I don't mean delete them from your life. What I mean is minimize  the time you spend with them, because they aren't bringing you value, nor can you bring value to them. 

Here are some quick tips that help you deal with passive-aggressive behavior: 

• The for damn sure ain't thinkin' about you - if someone has gotten huffy and decides to get upset at you without bringing it to you, they're not being authentic to themselves or to you... So why are YOU wasting your precious time and energy worrying about why you've upset them?


• Be about bigger things - when you live your life according to a higher purpose, petty arguments and fights become irrelevant... So you eliminate them from your life, and get on to figuring out how you can be of service to the planet instead (and folks, we need way more people out on this big mission!)


• YOU run this ship! - that's right! When you remember that no one can DO anything TO YOU that YOU don't allow, YOU choose how you handle each and every situation. YOU choose to value yourself so that you have a voice and call out someone who's not treating you as you wish to be treated.  When YOU  know that you're worth the best there is to have in life, YOU NEVER let yourself be a victim in any situation.

Dealing with conflict surely isn't fun... and trust me, with all the work I do, I'm telling you, sometimes it gets real hard. Your palms will get clammy, you'll get pit stains from profuse sweating... However, you'll also get real, authentic results. The vibrancy of life is from getting amazing results.

Hope you remember this the next time someone tries to make you feel guilty. Foggetaboutit! :)

Capsule #4: Dumbing Yourself Down?

Q: I feel like I "dumb myself down" so I don't outshine my partner. What should I do?


A's:

From Bruno Coelho (#TheRabbitWay):

How high will you fly in Life is determined by the wings of those you surround yourself with.

It all comes down to your standards and what are you willing to settle yourself for.

Instead of "dumbing yourself down" why don't you "lead them up"?

Above all else ask: what would LOVE do?


From Tash: You should never have to lower yourself to anyone else's standards. It means you lack self-love which demands that you always give yourself and others the best!

Be honest with your partner about how you're feeling, as they may not realize what's happening.

YOU make the choice to surround yourself with people who help you rise, and you help them to rise as well. If you can't provide value to others (which you can't if you're lowering your own standards), or others can't provide value to you, how are you ever going to be your best selves?

The Keys to Being Hot

I'm asked quite often how I got to be so cute... And then my usual response is "if you only knew how much I used to think I was $h!tty it would blow your mind".

HOWEVER,

The road to getting there was hard, I shed litres of tears, and had years of battles with my own self-doubt.

IT WAS SOOO WORTH IT!

I'll share with you some of my very simple (and did I mention FREE or affordable) rules that I used to literally turn back the hands of time for my physical self-beauty, and make my self-confidence literally unshakeable (well, some hours of shaking happen here and there, but that's a part of life!) confidence:

• Love Yourself Unconditionally - That's right, love the bumps, scars, cellulite, bad hair days, whatever makes you human. Until YOU accept yourself fully, how can anyone else?!
• Tell Yourself How Awesome You Are - Yes, I tell myself every single morning that I'm the bomb! lol... It's funny and strange at first, but boy oh boy, love then becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy to all the other areas of your life too :). 
• Don't Judge Lest You Be Judged Too - Would you want anyone sizing you up, trying to figure out if you're "worth it"? How about giving people room to be themselves. When people are allowed to be themselves and feel comfortable being who they truly are around you, miracles happen - for them AND for you!
• Feed Yourself the Good Stuff - Read your labels on what you eat... Better yet, eat mainly things that don't need to be packaged - fresh fruits and vegetables! If you can't pronounce it, don't wear it on your skin or put it in your body. Spend a few extra dollars on local and organic so that you save thousands in future medical costs.  

And most of all, don't seek approval from the outside world. Learn to be who you authentically are, as is. Me? I LOVE country music, love being a Linux girl, will stand up for the underdog, and continue to challenge people who make others feel bad... No excuses, no pity-parties, and standing true to my overall purpose on this planet. I'm here to help people HEAL themselves, and also to help HEAL the planet. Because I'm as certain of this purpose as the air that I breathe, I will allow no one to stop me from being who I was born to be.

That's what makes me hot. Confidence is super-sexy.

Remember that all of us - everyone past, present or future - crave two main things in life; love and acknowledgement. When you are a stand in your life for those two things, what can stand in your way?! If you know of some things that prevent this, feel free to comment, so we can dissolve those mountains :). 

Be Your Own SuperHero (or SuperSHEro)

How important is it to believe in yourself? It's EVERYTHING!!! :)

Where are All the Good Single People?

Everyone who knows me can attest to the fact that I'm always doing my best to make sure that my single friends meet each other... Not necessarily to become a couple, but to know that single amazing people DO exist!!! For those of you still waiting for that special someone, here are some SIMPLE and FREE tips to help you start meeting the great single folks!

• Compliment Strangers! - I do this all the time when I'm out with my single friends all the time, so they can see how its done. Approaching someone with a beautiful smile, great fashion sense, and giving them a compliment without expecting anything in return gives the other person have a great moment for their day and boosts your own confidence!


• Get Introduced to Friends of Friends - It is soooo true that great people hang in packs! Arrange for dinner parties and ask your friends (single or coupled) to bring some of their single friends along, and you do the same. 


• Social Media has Gems - I've met some of the most fantastic people online first before I met them in person! Do a search through Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook and any other social media network for people who have the same interests as you do. Strike up a convo in 140 characters or less, and before you know it you've got a new friend!

Lastly, and most importantly - complaining that there are no good people single people out there makes it a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your thoughts do form your life, so in order to have amazing people find you, you have to believe they exist!  I am blessed to call some of the most wonderful people I have ever met close friends, all because I knew I wanted to be surrounded by awesomeness... So that's exactly what the Universe delivered. Here's to believing, knowing and telling yourself that you deserve the very best! xoxo :)