I'm Upsetting Who?

I've had so many conversations recently with people who are worried or spending time thinking about others they have upset or made uncomfortable.

Here's some truth for you:

If people DO NOT have the courage to approach you about what you've done, FORGET ABOUT IT!!!

If YOU live your life by making it clear that people can be honest with you - you create the space where they can bring you anything! Therefore, if someone can't deal with healthy conflict - delete delete delete!

Keep in mind that I don't mean delete them from your life. What I mean is minimize  the time you spend with them, because they aren't bringing you value, nor can you bring value to them. 

Here are some quick tips that help you deal with passive-aggressive behavior: 

• The for damn sure ain't thinkin' about you - if someone has gotten huffy and decides to get upset at you without bringing it to you, they're not being authentic to themselves or to you... So why are YOU wasting your precious time and energy worrying about why you've upset them?


• Be about bigger things - when you live your life according to a higher purpose, petty arguments and fights become irrelevant... So you eliminate them from your life, and get on to figuring out how you can be of service to the planet instead (and folks, we need way more people out on this big mission!)


• YOU run this ship! - that's right! When you remember that no one can DO anything TO YOU that YOU don't allow, YOU choose how you handle each and every situation. YOU choose to value yourself so that you have a voice and call out someone who's not treating you as you wish to be treated.  When YOU  know that you're worth the best there is to have in life, YOU NEVER let yourself be a victim in any situation.

Dealing with conflict surely isn't fun... and trust me, with all the work I do, I'm telling you, sometimes it gets real hard. Your palms will get clammy, you'll get pit stains from profuse sweating... However, you'll also get real, authentic results. The vibrancy of life is from getting amazing results.

Hope you remember this the next time someone tries to make you feel guilty. Foggetaboutit! :)

Give Away Your Best Work... For FREE!

The best business advice I ever got was:

Give away your best work... for FREE! 

Since I've started doing this, it seems like the payback has been non-stop. Here are some of the benefits of giving away your best work :

• Detaching from expectation - when you give JUST TO GIVE, you never give to get. You give for that feeling of someone else benefiting from your expertise alone. When you focus on providing value to those who need your help, everything else becomes secondary, because there's no longer a "what's in it for me" twist to what you're doing.


• You allow people into your world, and are allowed into theirs - when you are open and honest with people, you build up something called trust. This is one of the most important keys to becoming an expert, and someone's go-to-guru.


• Your Karma Bank increases - what goes around always comes around. You get to help people who maybe didn't even know they needed help. You provide resources to those who couldn't afford you otherwise. The Universe LOVES people who do good. If you trust this mechanism, the good always comes back to you.

My clients are AWESOME in that they show me what faith truly is; I trust them to work for the results they want in their life, and they reward me with their results AND money. What can get better than that?!

What could YOU give away that can take your business to the next level?

The Power of Your Intentions

Be honest - sometimes we all feel like this....

Like we're a little kid, in a grown up world, and NOTHING in the world makes sense...

I felt like this even today, where my big bad goal of being on tv seemed to be taking FOREVER to reach, because I felt like there's these big hoops out there that I don't know how to jump through, nor want to.

And then I realized the power of my own thoughts. It's only difficult to attain my goal if I perceive it is! I got brought back to the fact that whether I think I can, or can't I'm probably right.

So here are my tips to help you remember the power of your own thoughts and words to help you bring you back to the original purpose and passions in your own life:

• STOP making EVERYTHING so significant!!! - when we view the accomplishing of a goal the end-all-and-be-all, the fun, the freedom, the playfulness of getting there ends. Have fun with what you're up to, and remember that the ultimate fun is in the journey, not the destination!


• Turn your goal into a GAME - this point is courtesy of my bro Ryan Coelho, who taught me that when I view achieving my goal as something truly fun, create a team that's working with me (like my Hot N Holistic Fab Girls!), and stop worrying about whether I achieve the actual goal or not, and do my best to just go for it, the entire process is AMAZING.


• Ask for help!!! - yes, y'all may have seen my previous post about the art of asking. Many people forget that people help people achieve their goals. If you don't ask for what you want or need, how can anyone help you get it?!


•  Tell Yourself YES I CAN! - I know, this is the hardest part of all of these points to master, however, it truly is the key to unlocking your own success... There is a whole philosophy around the power of manifesting your goals, that I'd love to share with you if you're truly interested in hearing how it works. In the meantime, I'm asking that you trust me when I tell you that belief in yourself is the key to getting people to stand up and take notice of you.

I'm writing this because as I go out into the world, and listen to people complaining at the table next to me in the coffee shop, hearing the stories about how people are being terrorized in their corporate office, and the countless other stories of people knocking each other down, I'm on a mission to continuously raise those I love and support up!... that means ALL OF YOU!!! Because I realize the power of my own words, I'm teaching thousands, millions to embrace the power within you.

Be kind, and uplifting to yourself today!!! xoxox :)