Rejection as a Blessing?

I had a dear friend teach me an invaluable lesson today.

Being that I'm a lifestyle cheerleader (aka wellness coach), I'm always on the lookout to help people. So today, when my friend came to me with an issue (they always feel as heaviness and sluggishness to my system), after a few minutes of me "coaching" he stopped me.

He told me that he stopped listening. AKA, I was being rejected. 

At first, I thought what most of us think in those moments. 

MAJOR FAIL.

Then God and The Universe had me come to my senses and learn the following lessons:

• Acknowledge the courage - first off, it's not easy to reject someone... EVER. It's also not easy to accept negative feedback with grace. For me to take it, and not go right into attack mode (which I have learned not to do), also takes courage to stop and listen. 


• Move on, in a LOVING way - as soon as I knew he wasn't listening, I realized two things - he was open to moving on, but I also wasn't the one to help! When I usually do my work, I do minimal talking, so for the simple fact that I was doing all the talking, he saw that my work wasn't working! That fact makes neither of us wrong. What I knew is that I wasn't the one to help him, and that there are probably some of my other coach friends who could reach him. 


• Pushing helps NO ONE - I have a purpose, and is to help those who need it, and who can get my work so that they heal. It helps reserve my energy to work with those who fit with me, and the same for him. No one is meant to properly serve everyone. So letting go of those who don't fit allows us to do our work with those who can be helped, and allows us to maximize our successes.


• End all things in gratitude - before the end of our conversation, there was a moment of silence. After which I gave my friend a sincere and heartfelt thank you. Were it not for this interaction, I would not have the lesson that will benefit and improve my work with others. I honour him for being the space through which I received this lesson.

These same steps can be use for any form of rejection we experience in the future (and I say we, as I hope you will try this method out). Whether it's a promotion, date, raise, contest, client, gig, partner, remembering these things from either side of the rejection - the giver or the receiver - can allow you to honour your integrity and leave a relationship in a better state than where it started.

If you try this out, please leave your comments for what the situation was, and the outcomes, so we all can increase our learning! :)

Waking up from the Numbness?

Come on.... We've all been there. Not wanting to get out of bed. Having people talking to you, and you're not even mentally in the room. Sleepwalking through life and thinking "There's GOT to be more than this!".

Been there, bought that t-shirt.

Remember the last time you took a vacation? Let's say you were sitting on a sunny beach, feeling every last grain of sand as it went between your toes. Hearing the sounds of the waves crashing on the beach. Watching the colour of the sky, the water, the sand, seeing others walking along the beach too... Isn't that scene so vivid for you? Wasn't it magnificent? 

Well here is where I teach you some simple tips that help you to feel like that all day, every day, and wake back up to ALL of the life that's around you:

•  Be aware of your awareness - This might be a funny statement, but sometimes with all the media and stuff we're bombarded with each day, we forgot what life really is : experiencing our 5 senses REAL TIME. Begin to notice the sky again... The sound of children as you're going to work. Stop to feel the softness of the petals of flowers. Heck, if it helps, keep a bowl of sand near your workspace for when you start to feel that numbness again! The whole goal of you being aware of how your body feels is to be aware of your feelings. It takes practice to be always in a state of awareness, but it helps to get the body to tingle all over again (yes, we should ALWAYS be tingling! :) ). 


• Appreciate the small and free things - Yesterday, the kindness of two complete strangers made my day! One held a door open for me. The other told me I had awesome hair. These two things alone made my entire day! What things that people do for you out of kindness, without expectation that you may be overlooking? Heighten your awareness to moments like these.


• SMILE!!! - For no reason at all... Just because you're blessed with LIFE! Think about it; The Universe, God, or whatever/whoever you credit for giving you life, is never obligated to give you LIFE. For that reason, and that reason alone, we have the opportunity to be thankful to get a chance to experience all the wonderful things listed above, and all the ones that YOU can think of right now!

Each and every single person born in the past, present and future is born to be an amazing treasure to this planet. Somewhere along the way, we all began to believe the lies media, television, toxic people, exes, and the other sources tell us about how wrong, bad, evil and mean, and worthless we are.

I'm on a journey to dispell all these lies!

Each of us is born whole, complete, perfect and worthy of love. Free from judgement. I teach people how to take back this power. And most of it, I do for free, because I LOVE MY LIFE and want as many people as possible to love theirs as well. 

You willing to fight for your life?