What To Do When You Have A Crap Day

For some reason, when I have a s&!tty day, I presume that a superhero will come out from my closet and sweep me off my feet...

AS IF!

lol. For real, this week was filled with stuckness for me. And it was because I allowed myself to fall prey to something that we all experience in rare moments:

BEING HUMAN!

Yes, that is what we are folks. We will never be perfect, nor should we strive to be. And after weeks of trying to perfect my programs, doing tons and tons of videos that just don't seem to be good enough, today I had my wake up call, that all that matters is to get out there and do it! We can always go back and improve.

So here are the things that I used to get myself un-stuck, and allowed me to write this post, send my first newsletter in about a month, and get off my butt!

• Get over yourself - Yes, this is a hard one to do, because it's so easy to beat yourself up and tell you how wrong you are to not have completed everything on your to-do list. FORGIVE yourself, then move on to the big goals that you have in mind, that help others! Make your life all about helping others and that will kick-start you to get moving.


• Think about your wins - We all too quickly achieve goals, then don't take time to acknowledge our own accomplishments! I sat back and realized that maybe the reason why I feel overwhelmed is because I got that TV show I have been asking for, am getting the five-figure gigs I've been working so hard for, and have been landing sponsorship deals that I previously was only dreaming of. No wonder I've got to get a move-on my info-products! Reflecting gave me a new look at what I'm working on, and help me put pep back in my step :).


• Let go - Whatever happened last week, two days ago, or even yesterday is the past already! I do this really awesome exercise - when I'm in the shower, I visualize letting all my failures, challenges and issues of the previous day go down the drain along with the water. Try it and see if it works for you too!


• Gratitude - Each day, I awake to letters from clients, friends and loved ones letting me know that the work that I do is not in vain. This gives me more motivation to get out there and to not let challenges get me stuck!

The bigger your goals get, the more you want to achieve, the more obligations and work will fall on your plate. Please remember that you are human, not super-human, and its ok to feel overwhelmed every once in a while.

Then go out there and help the planet! We need you :).

Sending you Love and Light. xoxoxo!

Rejection as a Blessing?

I had a dear friend teach me an invaluable lesson today.

Being that I'm a lifestyle cheerleader (aka wellness coach), I'm always on the lookout to help people. So today, when my friend came to me with an issue (they always feel as heaviness and sluggishness to my system), after a few minutes of me "coaching" he stopped me.

He told me that he stopped listening. AKA, I was being rejected. 

At first, I thought what most of us think in those moments. 

MAJOR FAIL.

Then God and The Universe had me come to my senses and learn the following lessons:

• Acknowledge the courage - first off, it's not easy to reject someone... EVER. It's also not easy to accept negative feedback with grace. For me to take it, and not go right into attack mode (which I have learned not to do), also takes courage to stop and listen. 


• Move on, in a LOVING way - as soon as I knew he wasn't listening, I realized two things - he was open to moving on, but I also wasn't the one to help! When I usually do my work, I do minimal talking, so for the simple fact that I was doing all the talking, he saw that my work wasn't working! That fact makes neither of us wrong. What I knew is that I wasn't the one to help him, and that there are probably some of my other coach friends who could reach him. 


• Pushing helps NO ONE - I have a purpose, and is to help those who need it, and who can get my work so that they heal. It helps reserve my energy to work with those who fit with me, and the same for him. No one is meant to properly serve everyone. So letting go of those who don't fit allows us to do our work with those who can be helped, and allows us to maximize our successes.


• End all things in gratitude - before the end of our conversation, there was a moment of silence. After which I gave my friend a sincere and heartfelt thank you. Were it not for this interaction, I would not have the lesson that will benefit and improve my work with others. I honour him for being the space through which I received this lesson.

These same steps can be use for any form of rejection we experience in the future (and I say we, as I hope you will try this method out). Whether it's a promotion, date, raise, contest, client, gig, partner, remembering these things from either side of the rejection - the giver or the receiver - can allow you to honour your integrity and leave a relationship in a better state than where it started.

If you try this out, please leave your comments for what the situation was, and the outcomes, so we all can increase our learning! :)

The Art of Asking

Watch me get real as I bask in the glow of watching Amanda Palmer being the master of her craft :)

Better Yet : How to Stop Work from Being a Drag!

This needs to be posted again, because I feel now, more than ever, people are missing moments of bliss, as they chase for the "future happiness" they think they are going to get. Happiness is in the NOW, and people know your happy by how you are BEING in the moment.

What you YOU going to choose to BE today? :)