If a relationship involves daily arguing, fighting, especially over minor, insignificant things, is it really worth it?
I'm going to give you another possibility:
A loving, authentic relationship can really be like water; Consistently changing, and nourishing to the mind, body and soul.
I have been in a loving partnership for over two and a half years, and I can tell you, that it certainly does not feel like work. Don't get me wrong - it doesn't mean we never fight... It just means that when we're feeling discomfort, we don't hide - we get straight to the root of the problem and solve it!!! In the heat of those arguments, the blood gets pumping, and it gets really scary. However, we both know that being authentic, and truthful about what's really happening is the only way to keep our relationship healthy and happy.
Please don't buy into the stereotypes that tell you that all relationships are hard work. Choose a partner who helps you grow, who you can help to grow, who you truly enjoy the company of, who can make you laugh, who can make you cry tears of joy... And drink in that nourishing soul food :).
If you can relate, or if you can't - please comment! The only way we can change how the world runs is if we can learn to share our stories :).
Here's a comment from one of my readers:
ReplyDeleteRelationship is hard work if a husband or a wife or both life partner you are in a relationship who have not acknowledge or confront their own "issues of life" individually and collective.
What ever "issues of life" you fear, you will create and recreate a land mine of more "issues of life". We must at some point find the courage to confront the non-confronted "issues of life" by finding one's voice to say I need help.
A relationship is hard work if unconditional love, transparency, honesty, respect, integrity, commitment, consistency, and communication is missing.
--Prophetess